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Attitude of Detachment
You may feel excitable and emotional about unexpected news today. Perhaps you become aware of a looming challenge that upsets your plans,
or you may simply feel overwhelmed by something that will ultimately be good for you. Whether you perceive these events to be good or bad may
depend solely on your reaction to them, and you can benefit by choosing to adopt an attitude of detachment from your emotions today.
Rather than allowing yourself to be taken on a roller coaster ride of ups and downs based on your experiences, you can simply embrace an
attitude of joy and acceptance for whatever may come your way. You may find it helpful to recite a calming affirmation throughout the day,
such as: “I am centered and peaceful in all circumstances.”
By choosing a neutral emotional state, we can better handle unexpected events. Though emotional reaction to powerful experiences is
commonplace for most of us, we can also learn to take control of our emotional responses and create a stronger sense of inner balance.
By choosing to detach from volatile emotions and instead embrace a consistent feeling of calm in every experience, we are still able to enjoy
pleasant experiences and work through difficult ones. With a detached focus, we no longer feel controlled by our emotions and we discover
we have the power to choose how we feel in any circumstance. All of your experiences can seem more valuable today if you detach from
your emotional responses and adopt a focus on peace and joy in every moment.
Tearing Down To Rebuild
We all know someone who has elevated the process of complaining to a high art. Sometimes funny, sometimes exhausting, these people
have the ability to find a problem just about anywhere. In its more evolved form, complaining is simply the ability to see what’s not working,
in one’s own life or in the external world, and it can be quite useful if followed to its natural conclusion—finding a solution and applying it.
However, many of us don’t get that far, and we find that complaining has become an end in itself. In small doses, this is not a big problem,
but if complaining has become a huge part of our identities, it may be time to take a good look at how we are spending our energy.
Complaining is a person’s way of acknowledging that they are not happy with the way things are. In a metaphorical way, when we complain
or criticize, we are tearing down an undesirable structure in order to make room for something new. But if all we do is tear down, never
bothering to summon the creative energy required to create something new, we are not fulfilling the process. In fact, we are at risk for becoming
a stagnant and destructive force in our own lives and in the lives of the people we love. Another issue with complaining is that we sometimes
tend to focus on other people, whom we can’t change, as a way of deflecting attention from the one person we can change—ourselves.
So transforming complaining into something useful is a twofold process that begins with turning our critical eye to look at things we can actually
do something about, and then taking positive action.
When we find ourselves complaining, the last thing we need to do is get down on ourselves. Instead, we can begin by noticing that we are
in the mode of wanting to make some changes. But rather than lashing out at somebody or an organization, we can look for an appropriate
place to channel this energy—not our neighbor’s house, but possibly parts of our own. Finally, we can ask ourselves the positive question of
what we would like to create in the place of whatever it is we want to tear down. When we do this, we channel a negative habit into a creative
process, thus using our energy to change the world around us in a positive way.
Here are some more great ones that very recently made a lot of sense to me every single day, considering what personal challenges I was dealing with..
February 22, 2008
Part Of The Process
February 11, 2008
Life As It Is
Making Life Work For You
February 14, 2008
Being Clear About Desires
Getting What We Want
February 8, 2008
Promise Of Prosperity
Chinese Year Of The Rat
February 4, 2008
Stepping Back From Anger
January 31, 2008
Not Alone In The Dark
Looking At What We Don’t Want To See
January 30, 2008
Create Time For Self-Compassion
Being Gentle With Ourselves
January 28, 2008